Monday, August 13, 2012

Lament


I’m something of a news junkie. On a normal day, I wake up to the every-10-minutes radio news and switch to National Public Radio while I eat breakfast and get ready for the day.  And while the national news is on the air, I skim print headlines online and find out the news from family and friends via facebook. The first 90 minutes of my day are pretty much solid information loading.

I can’t resist it. But too much of a good thing can be toxic.
Especially this year’s news.
There’s the markets – job, housing, financial.   Campaign news (which is mostly about how miserable each of them says we’ll be if the other gets elected in November).  Syria gets scarier every day.  We’re still fighting two wars, and then some.
There’s a drought. People get shot. In the streets of Chicago and the suburbs.  At the movies. And at worship.

And then there’s the news in my facebook feed and my email.  People get sick; babies go to the hospital.  Families come apart, through death or anger.

It’s not all tragedy of course.  There are unexpected Olympic medals, delightful things kids do, wonderful healing - and some of the stuff those candidates do is just plain funny.

But it’s a messy, complicated world.  It makes me mad.  There’s so much that goes wrong amid the right, so many big things that can’t be fixed, it seems. It makes me tired.

Does that ever happen to you?
If not, excellent.  You’ve mastered the spiritual exercise of detachment, and you probably sleep okay at night.
But if it bugs you; if anxiety about the fate of the world – or the fate of your children or closest friends – keeps you awake at night or distracts you during the day, then some of the David and Absalom story will sound familiar.

Not the way you heard it a couple minutes ago – the lectionary people have surpassed themselves in presenting a nonsense excerpt – but the whole story, the one hinted at this morning.

You see, after David got in trouble over Bathsheba, things just got messier and more complicated in his nation and his family.

David had a lot of kids.  More than he could really keep track of, probably. And his oldest son, Amnon, got the hots for his half-sister Tamar.  There’s a lot of plot in here that would make Days of our Lives look simple, but ultimately Amnon rapes Tamar. Tamar tells her brother Absalom – who stews over it for two years then kills Amnon – which makes David mad, and he kicks Absalom out of the country. 
Trouble in the king’s household spills over into unrest in the country, so a few years later David tries to patch it up. Absalom comes back – and becomes a celebrity.  He’s handsome, he’s the kind of guy you’d have a beer with – meanwhile David’s getting out of touch – and it’s not too long before Absalom throws his hat in the ring and announces his candidacy for king. 
Now it’s open rebellion.  People are getting killed all over again.

But when the army marches out to put down the rebellion, everyone hears David saying, “Be gentle with Absalom – he’s still my son.”

But war is war, and things happen.  Absalom gets stuck in a tree – it’s apparently some very dangerous terrain they’re fighting in – and David’s general does a very thorough job of killing him.
And when the word at last gets back to David that his troublemaking, treasonous son has died,
well, it’s the end of the world, and he pours out a bitter lament:
Absalom, my son.
If only I had died instead of you.
Oh, Absalom, my son!

It’s a time of war.  A political conflict that makes our election look like a disagreement over potatoes and potahtoes. Economic uncertainty. Violence. And family tragedy.

It’s our morning news and our inbox, piled up and topped off with the indescribably bitter grief of a parent who’s lost a child in the middle of a broken relationship.

If there’s ever been a time for lament, it’s now.
A time to weep and mourn.
To pour out grief and anger, fear and despair.
To give voice to all the pain inside that comes when we hear about another mass shooting, and the hundreds of casual drive-bys that never make headlines; that comes when cancer returns, when a child is injured, a marriage dies, and the bank account bleeds red.

Lament matters,
because God didn’t design us to suffer in silence, to smother our hearts and ignore the pain.
If we do that, you see, our hearts shrink.

So the lectionary people did one thing right today.
They gave us lament.

Out of the depths have I called to you, O Lord.
Lord, hear my voice.
Listen well to my complaint.
God didn’t make us to be silent.
God made us to be fruitful. 
We should wake up in the morning ready for abundance and joy.  We should come to church celebrating, with our hearts full of gratitude and generosity, wide open for love. And we do.

But we also live in a world that is messy, and complicated, and painful.
We wake up to that world and come to church in that world, (and sometimes we skip church, in that world) and in that world, we sometimes find ourselves in the depths.

And so, along with our prayers, our celebration and praise,
there’s a time for lament.

Lament is a rich spiritual resource,
a tradition that reaches back to the early days of our history with God, when Israel lamented their slavery in Egypt, and God heard.

That’s the deep spiritual truth of lament.
It’s not just crying.
When we pour out grief and anger, fear and despair, into God’s ear, and give honest voice to the pain, when we open up those depths to God,
we come to the point where the only thing we can do is lean on God, to trust that God really, really hears us.

And listen to what happens in Psalm 130:

Out of the depths have I called to you, O Lord.
Lord, hear my voice.

With all that is wrong, who can stand before you?
Your forgiveness is awe-inspiring.

I wait for the Lord, my soul waits for him.
In his word is my hope.

Lament creates trust.
It goes hand in hand with prayers for healing, prayers for peace, and prayers of thanks.

Lament opens up despair or even indifference,
so that in the midst of war and politics,
loss and grief, anxiety and fear,
there is living, breathing hope.

Hope enough to love the people far away in Syria, Afghanistan and Iraq, and as close as Wisconsin, Colorado, and Chicago.
Hope enough to love through family tragedy.
Hope enough to love both candidates.
Hope enough to hear the news – David's news; our news; all the news – and still rejoice in the morning.

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